Expedition - Relations
I left Montreal, without any certainty about the future of my relationship my girlfriend. It is difficult to leave with strings attached, you know? I mean, who would want that? A generally held belief is that relationships, during extended expeditions, will not work. It is thought that your physical body must be beside the person. You must be able to see the person every day to make that relationship evolve and even flourish.
Perhaps there is some truth to that idea. I can’t deny that a physical presence in a partner's life is important. Obviously, it would be crazy to live your entire life without actually ever being with the one you love. My partner and I had difficulty adjusting at first and still struggle. Funny enough, it was the same before leaving as well. I think that a relationship's greatness is not measured by the problems you don't have, but more often, by the problems you are able to solve together.
Why did we go to school, why did we do homework, what makes us better people? It is the desire to be our best person and it is almost always discovered, as we meet with the challenges life brings us. When you are done a puzzle, you don’t contemplate it for the rest of your life. You take out another, perhaps a more complex one, and you start again. It's not about having problems, it's about learning how you deal with them as they arrive and yes, they will arrive. You will get mad, yes. You will get irritated, yes. But moving through these moments gently, in a positive manner, is what makes us better people. Nietzshe's famous quote: That which does not kill us, makes us stronger. Well, that same idea extends to every aspect of our lives.
I met my girlfriend, before leaving on this amazing trip. She knew from the start that I was leaving. At first, we had no expectations. We would pick up where we left off, if we were both up to that. I guess things changed, when she came for a visit to New York. It was great. We couldn’t get enough of each other. We agreed we would try to make this work and see what happens. Regardless of the outcome, communication is key and enjoying the time apart is also. We both have separate lives and both must compromise. Luckily enough for me, she has the patience of a monk. She has already travelled twice to see me and help out the team.
Many people thought I was crazy to embark on this journey. They also thought I was crazy to be in a relationship during this time. So far, I have held the course and ...it certainly doesn't hurt to be at least, a little crazy.